GIRL’S SURVIVAL GUIDE #2
(to happiness)

So my dear Drama Queens, now that we all have a higher consciousness on how media has been over exposing romance and somehow successful in shaping our set of mind, speaking of happiness can be a little tricky don’t you think?

As been informed by the movie of US’ Declaration of Independence, I quote “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. — That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, — That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness.”
History is really not my interest but I must say this is one of the most humane declarations I’ve ever known.

Women are such a wonderful yet full of complications creature. It’s indeed a blessing and big responsibility to become the person who could give birth to a child, let alone having ourselves as the weakest target of stereotyping set by society and media over-exposure. So, instead of surrendering ourselves to always be considered as second class, it is important for us to totally have full consciousness to the going on in the world. Please don’t ever let anyone else beside yourself to determine who you are, we must take good grip of the center of ourselves to keep pursuing our right of happiness as round character women.

I really appreciate how Jefferson had so cunningly view happiness as a right one must pursuit; that in an more elaborate way I suppose he was saying no one can ever be sure if true happiness is real or is it just some idea we have that one day we might be able to experience true happiness and know how it actually feels while at the same time can share it with the ones we cherished most.

But gurl, if you are looking for the meaning of happiness here, trust me, you’re wasting your time, as this writing here will only give you ways of getting there but most definitely the true meaning of happiness lies within us.

The question is, are we willing to do whatever it takes, even if it means we’ll need to deconstruct whatever values or customs being indoctrinated since we were born, even if it means we’ll need to overcome the meanest beast sleeping in every one of us – our insecurities – this is going to be a harsh ride. Surely it won’t get you nowhere if you just sit around reading without getting your lazy ass to work it!

# MEN ARE ASSHOLES AND WE ARE BITCHES
I’m sure each of us pretty much understands (or if you haven’t then I pity you girl for being so self-absorbed) when a guy acting (too) nice like giving you flowers or surprise gifts out of nowhere, he might like you but he definitely wants something from you. Nothing’s for free!

Do you really think any guy who is willing to spend his time picking you up each day from work, then taking you to the mall for a haircut, taking your sick pet to the veterinarian after delivering your Mom’s cooking to your Aunt’s place expects nothing in return? What were you thinking? Girl, you better check your sanity meter and return to me after you got the right mind, okay?

To those of us who still can’t figure out why your last boyfriend dumped you after he fucked you up big time, hello… welcome to the world. Here’s the deal, boys will be boys, and they will always be mean as we will always bitching to whatever.

For example, when a guy wants to have an unprotected sex, whatever he said, he’s in love with you or some other sh*t, unless you guys already in a real committed relationship, don’t believe him! He’s an asshole and you’ve every right to protect yourself.

Please do realize that we too often abusing our power. Men usually abuse their power on us physically while our form of abuse to them is mentally. Frankly I don’t know which one’s worst from the other; let’s just admit it that we are all one of a kind.

And now, if you still think that you can take advantage of a guy’s kindness by asking him to drive you wherever you wanted to go and that you can dump him whenever you wanted, if that is the case I hope and thank the guy for dumping you and for you, maybe you do deserve to be fucked up for being such a selfish biatch!

In case you’re still refusing to understand what I’m talking about, let me give you just a simple example. Let say you were born from a wealthy family and happen to grow up to be good looking, or perhaps you’re not that good looking but you’ve perfect body with good career and a big income, I bet it’s natural for you to feel superior. Not just towards people poorer or uglier than you, but in the matter of fact; you somehow enjoy bitching to everyone.

Another case, a colleague or a friend come asking for a favor and you somehow are in a bad mood and you think you’ve got a lot more important things to do, so you think you can give them the ‘attitude’, sista? Come on, you’re not the only living creature in this world who has the biggest problems, keep in mind that it is not always about you! You’re not that popular, you’re not that pretty, and you’re definitely not that important!

You know, one of the most wonderful parts of happiness is to be able to share it. Thus instead of drowning ourselves in our own miserable hell, I think we need to have the courage of sharing ourselves first to others in order to in the end receive the positive energy back from people surrounding us. The rule is simple, try to share a smile or two or more to the people we meet each morning, try to lend a hand to person sitting next to us after we’ve finished our tasks, try to be more open and bring down our guards and uptightness. Just simple and genuine gestures, try them and tell me the result!