GIRL’S SURVIVAL GUIDE #1

(to happiness)

Went to watch The Pursuit of Happyness last night with two colleagues. It’s been a while that the three of us could finally spend time together outside the office hour for a good time and laugh. Aside from the fact that I’ve been thinking to write something about girl’s survival guide, the experience from going and watching the movie has in a way inspired me bout the following dos and don’ts for girls:

# NO MORE DRAMA, GURL!
On the way to the theater, as usual we started the topic with some gossips on the latest sinetron (TV drama), and the thing that kinda bothered me was bout TV stations (media) with their typical stereotyping of romance, those stuff really could mess up your mind, seriously!

One of my friends explained this scene she’d watched about a girl whose boyfriend had been in the comma for two years with no hope of waking up yet she waited faithfully for they had engaged just before the guy had had the accident. And then there were this other guy who also foolish enough to drive every time she went visiting the comma guy in the hospital. This silly guy told the girl that she shouldn’t wait for the comma guy since it’s been two years and yet there still no sign if he ever waking up and that she should be with him, the man who could be her future. My friend said she was really touched when the stupid guy declared that since the girl had willingly wasted her time waiting for her comma boyfriend, then there’s no reason why the fool couldn’t waste his time waiting in vain for the girl to finally fall for him as well >.<

At one hand, dramas intended for entertainment purpose only, however, just think of how it will affect one who watches too many? Could she still differentiate which is real from the scenario that could only happen in movies? *yes, I can see you nodding over there, Ina* :)

To all of you my dear girlfriends out there, you need to wake up! Do you really think the ‘prince charming who will come to rescue you’ tale is fucking real? I’m telling you now, I’m screaming at you now, IT’S NOT!

So unless you’re the type of shallow girls who think that having a rocking body, a rich father, and some proper education abroad are enough, and you’re willing to become domestic slut whose rich husband’s screwing around with his secretary without a fight; better stop thinking that you’re a princess, coz you’re not.

You are in fact, a very much alive human being that shouldn’t ever be judged only by your boobies or behind, you have the mind and feminine soul which when it is trained the right way, will be very powerful – enough to stop you from playing the so-called ‘drama’, both in the real life, one that you often played as a princess everyday, and from the one you’ve been watching or the chick lit you currently reading.

Therefore, I strongly urge every girl who has not yet fully understood and experienced REAL relationship – by this I’m referring to the kind of relationship where one no longer playing any ‘game’ or has a specific agenda towards the partner, and already equipped with clearer views of love – please… just watch anything other than sinetron, Korean/Japanese drama series!

There’s no easy solution I could offer though to Indonesian who don’t have any cable, this somehow makes you kinda stuck with the situation in which there aren’t, in fact, anything left to watch other than those sappy sinetrons.

Lemme give you some hints: how about trying something absolutely new, in return, like instead of going straight home from the office to watch the latest Korean series, try hanging out for coffee or tea with some co-workers or closest friends. Or join a community or found one for people having the same interest as you. Or my personal favorites: go watch CSI series or the Amazing Race *yes, your favorite, Sof* :)

# MEN ARE ASSHOLES AND WE ARE BITCHES
To be continued…